Breakthrough to Happy™ is a system for reclaiming joy and developing a happy, successful life after experiencing losses and challenges. I help people with life after loss…activating resilience to reclaim a happy life. I am committed to helping people transform their personal and professional future by recognizing that the story of their past is really a springboard to a more positive future. We do this together by using breakthrough tools of resilience, implementing positive changes, and creating focus and momentum for writing the future in a whole new way.

Sandy_new Funny thing about tragedy, it often makes the creative mind wake up. Suddenly your thoughts are not the same as they were yesterday. Your brain comes alive with activity. It recalls memories, heightens imagination, and in a flash you view life through different eyes. Your life is in chaos and your mind cries out to restore peace and harmony. It never rests.

On the night of my son’s death, exhausted, I lay down on the couch and closed my eyes. I wrapped myself into a ball and sought comfort in a cocoon of sadness. I heard only the din of voices from all of those who gathered in our home to support us through that tragic day.Garrett Brass Chest

My brain suddenly came alive. It awakened a compartment of memories, long since forgotten. The projector in my mind was an endless Playlist of Garrett’s life. It was as clear as if the events happened yesterday. I saw him as a baby, crawling in front of the shiny brass chest, amused by his own image. I could hear his voice in my head when he first learned to talk as his first word, “kitty” sputtered from his lips in delight. The memories were vivid with colors, and smells, and raw emotion.

It felt as though I could touch him and actually hear his voice, so real and yet so unsatisfying because reality would abruptly hit me hard… my beautiful boy was gone from my arms forever. And then, I’d feel tears falling from my eyes, but my voice had no sound. I was afraid to cry out because it might erase the pictures in my head. If I could just have stayed there, in that moment, that dreamy state where I was with him. That was the only place my heart wanted to be. [read full article]

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by Sandy Breakthrough to Happy
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by Sandy Breakthrough to Happy
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by Sandy How to Survive the Loss of a Child
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by Sandy Forgiveness
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by Sandy Breakthrough to Happy
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